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Blind Date Basics
Your
friend has just set you up with a guy you have never met and know nothing
about, except what she has told you. You have those fears. What if I don`t
like him or what if I like him but he doesn`t like me. Well don`t worry,
we are here to help.
Keep
an open mind
Remember this is a blind date. You have never
seen this guy before. Don`t form a mental image of him or have high
expectations. You will only be dissapointed if he is not how you imagined.
You will know within the first few minutes whether you are attracted
to him or not.
Keep it short but sweet
Don`t arrange to meet at the cinema, for dinner or any where else
hat could keep you together for more than an hour. Arrange to meet
up for a coffee or during your lunch break. If you are not interested
in the guy then you can make a quick exit if you have only agreed
to meet for half an hour or an hour and if you do like him then you
can stay where you are or arrange to meet up again.
Way out
It is crucial when on a blind date that you
have an escape route. You could get a friend to call you 30 minutes
into the date and if you don`t like him you can make an excuse and
leave and if you do like him then you can tell your friend to call
you back later. (Remember to always let someone know where you are.)
Or you could tell him that you promised your friend you’d go shopping
an hour after you and he planned to meet. If the date is going well,
pretend to go call her to let her know that "you’re not up to going
shopping." Go shopping if you aren`t interested. You could get some
friends to turn up at the meeting point and if things aren`t going
well you can leave with them and if things are going well tell them
you will meet up with them later.
Meet ‘n’ greet
One of
the biggest mistakes people make when going on a blind date is trying
to be someone they aren’t.
When meeting someone for the first time,
be yourself. Whether that means going all out or remaining casual,
your personality will shine through only if you’re not trying to be
something you aren’t. While first impressions are important, do not
feel the need to wear heels on a Sunday if you’d normally wear flip-flop
sandals. He wants to know who you are; not who you think he wants
you to be.
Better safe than sorry
While
going on a blind date can be exciting and fun, remember that you have
no firsthand knowledge about the person you are meeting. If you have
been set up through mutual friends, they will most likely have a rough
idea of your plans. But just in case, make sure someone knows exactly
where and when you’re meeting.
If the person you are meeting is a complete
stranger, however, you need to take even more precautions. Make sure
someone knows your whereabouts, knows the name of the person you will
be meeting, and how long the date is scheduled for. You may want to
have a friend join you, or "run into you" about 15 minutes into the
date to check up on you.
Who`s
paying
Make it clear
from the start if you intend to pay for half of everything. You may not
want to feel like you owe the guy anything.
Goodbye
Parting after a blind date has the potential to be
very awkward, but it doesn’t have to be! Should you kiss him, if you like
him? Should you tell him you aren’t interested? It’s always best to do whatever
you think feels right. If you are interested in going out with him again,
make sure he knows it and tell him that you will call. If you aren’t interested
in seeing him again, make sure that you let him know. It’s better to be
honest then stringing him along to false hopes.
Getting to know him
Pay close attention to the things he says, which
can reveal a lot. Discussing taste in music, film, food, and art can be
a great way to find out if you two have common interests—or nothing in common
at all!
You should also look for common "warning
signs" when on a blind date. If the guy does any of the following, watch
out!
- Talks about his ex-girlfriend throughout the date
- Doesn’t offer to pay for the first date (or the second,
or third…)
- Speaks badly about his mother or ex-girlfriends
- Treats the waiters, staff rudely or doesn’t tip
Remember not everyones tastes are the same
and there will be things about a guy that you do not like, such as baldness,
lack of hygeine etc.. Theses are your own warning signs so don`t egnore
them.
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